It's None of Your F-ing Business

Chris and I have been married for 3 1/2 years and have not children yet.  In local LDS circles, that make us pariahs.  In another year or so, we half expect the villagers to storm our gates wielding torches and pitchforks.  Attending social gatherings is a constant worry for us.  Because we are inevitably asked, "So when are you guys going to start having kids?"  If we had a nickel for every time we were asked that question we'd have our own jet.  What is the obsession with married couple having kids in our religion?  I know that some people want to have children immediately.  And if having children quickly is their joint decision, good for them.  A couple should be able to decide those things prayerfully and thoughtfully.  They should also be able to decide to wait.  And no matter what their decision is, it is no third party's business (including family),

Chris has mentioned that some people probably ask about kids because they have nothing else to talk to us about.  That makes a lot of sense.  I think there are some people that fit into that category.  For those people, there is a list of topics that I would rather you ask about.

• Work/Career
• Travel
• Colon Health
• Polka Music
• ANYTHING ELSE

Why wouldn't we want to be ready before having a child?  How could being established financially before kids be a bad thing?  I think that being in a house and my husband having a steady career will make our future children's lives easier.  We will be able to devote more time and energy to them because we won't have to focus on as many external forces.

I want to write this post so that people know a few things.

1. We have a life plan, and that doesn't include children for a while longer.
2. Whether you agree with our plan or not, it is solely our decision.
3. Please stop beating a dead horse.  (We'd hat to have to get PETA involved).

This post isn't meant to offend anyone.  We've been asked by a TON of people, so don't feel singled out.  This is merely a way for me to vent.